Re: The Search for Love

"I've heard that many single people lead very satisfying lives"
(posted in http://sexloveandintrigue.blogspot.com/2009/10/search-for-love_25.html)

Someone once asked if I had ever had been in a relationship. I responded a casual, ambivalent response of "No" to which she replied "Awwww....poor you, you'll find someone." I was shocked and surprised on many levels. Firstly, I was in utter disgust that she thought I was sad about it. Moreover, I was in awe about how society in general assumes that if we're not in a relationship, then our life is not completely satisfying. In our culture, it's a tragedy for someone to die alone, or for a twenty-something to have never been kissed. We throw lavish, celebratroy weddings for the union of two people finding love, but rarely recognize receiving a Ph.D or making CEO with little more than a pat on the back. Single people can live very satisfying lives, but it depends on what we value. If you find being in romantic relationships satisfying, then by all means, pursue them. Cool. If you find being a successful biochemist satisfying, cool. Be one. But don't pity the people who are single. You may find that their lives are actually satisfying. And remember, married people can also be unhappy and dissatisfied.

Regards,

James

PS. Brava to your post, Miss.