It has been four months(!) since I have weened myself off from a life-long addiction. Initially, the detox process was killer. I had to mentally block my cravings and stop myself from making a late night run to get my fix. Yes, turning vegetarian was definitely going to be my Everest. Granted, prior to my full on conversion, I realized that I would go for days without eating anything that has a face on it without a care in the world. I was feasting on tasty vegetarian (and sometimes vegan) meals on a recurring basis. But the one specific day I decided in my head that I couldn't touch another piece of chicken breast or salmon fillet, I was fixated on what I couldn't have. We want what we can't have. Is this a universal characteristic that only makes us human? Is this applicable to that one man we can't touch because he is the ex of a friend? Or the boss we lust for at the office? Or that kid next door who just turned 19? How is this the same as wanting a nice bucket of KFC chicken or a Burger King Whopper?
I believe we think this way because we want something that can potentially make us happy, albeit for a very fleeting moment. When we are blocked from wanting something to satisfy us, we of course get upset and try (usually unsuccessfully) to think of something else. But we have to remember that this satiation would only be a temporary fix before wanting more or something different. We have to remember the outcomes and pitfalls of choosing that brief happiness, and change our focus to our long term goals and plans. Why did I choose to become vegetarian? I would like to say that I became vegetarian because I care about animal rights and the ethical treatment of them. I would also like you to believe that I am vegetarian because it is more ecological friendly for the ever-conscious environmentally friendly world. Sadly, I became vegetarian to force me to make more sensible and fresh meals, and would allow me to eat more without the guilt and thus allowing me to lose a pound or ten. Granted, I am a strong believer of the ethical treatment of animals, but the later reason was and is the main reason. For me, thinking of my reason to become vegetarian (ie. to shed the weight) has definitely stopped me from slipping up and chowing down on that Italian sausage, pepperoni, and bacon pizza.
I believe the same reasoning can be applied to our everyday lives, specifically in the realm of our love lives. Yes, it would be great to go out with that one unreliable, irresponsible guy who provides brief moments of fun and perhaps unbelievable, mind-numbing sex. But in the end, would it be worth it if we are in fact seeking a long-term relationship? No. So step away from that juicy, medium-rare, T-bone steak and start chowing down on that bowl of steamed string beans- sensible (and satisfying with the right accompaniments).
Regards,
James.
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